I’ve started a new blog titled “Do It Afraid.”
Do It Afraid is the message God has been trying to teach me all my life, but I only figured it out a year ago! It’s a little embarrassing to admit that I’ve been that slow to catch on (yes, I hit the side of my head with my right palm and exclaimed “I could have had a V-8”), but I’m so grateful for the healing that God is working in my life as a result of him giving me my “aha” moment.
Today I’ve put up my first post on the Do It Afraid site and I hope you’ll take the time to join me there and read a little more of my journey walking out of a life of fear and stepping forward in faith. I’ll still be sharing here at sunny side up, trying to keep the lighter side perspective on life, but I hope you are also blessed by the deeper sharing on Do It Afraid.
Here is an excerpt of today’s post: The Faces of Fear: Shame
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It’s a face of fear that I’m afraid to even talk about.
I’m afraid because I’ll have to make myself vulnerable to you, and share how painful and destructive shame has been in my own life.
I’d rather hide, like Adam and Eve in the garden, than show you the nakedness of my imperfections.
I’d rather live with my pretty make up on, so you never see the mask of shame that lies hidden just below.
But I’m going to share, because the fear of shame has ruled my life for far too long and hiding it was little by little killing me off inside.
The problem is, God did not create me to hide from life, he created me to live life to the fullest. Hiding from God and from you, living life constantly wearing make-up, trying to be perfect at everything, is incredibly painful. And destructive.
Because the face of the fear of shame is driven by perfectionism.
Research in human behavior confirms that perfectionism can lead us down the path of depression, anxiety, addiction and life paralysis:
“Perfectionism is a self-destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: If I look perfect, live perfectly, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize the painful feelings of shame, judgment and blame.” –Brene Brown
We know it’s true, but why are we women so consumed with trying to be perfect? And why is it so difficult for us to admit that we live and act out of our feelings of shame? That we are constantly battling the voice in our head that tells us we are not good enough?
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Thanks for sharing the adventure with me!
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