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Do you have a hyperactive conscience?

Yesterday one of my favorite authors, Mary DeMuth, published  a blog post titled “Confessions of a girl with a hyperactive conscience.”

(Click here to read it)

“That’s me!” I thought and clicked the link to read Mary’s thoughts. Judging by the number of responses she’s received, there are a lot of women in the same boat with Mary and me.

We question ourselves. We doubt our worth. We berate ourselves for our mistakes and failures.

Even though we know we shouldn’t.

Are you in the boat with us?

I’ve battled this hyperactive conscience for years and so I posted a comment on Mary’s blog. She wrote back:

“Wow, Linda, this has “book” written all over it.”

I laughed.

So Mary, it’s not a book, but here’s a blog post, and I pray God uses your words and mine to bring healing to all of us who want our hyperactive consciences to just shut up.

First, here is the response I posted on Mary’s blog:

At times in my life this battle against my conscience has had me curled up in a fetal position on the floor in agony. My wise husband finally told me one day that every time I questioned my worth or berated myself for doing/saying something wrong that I was calling God a liar : Isaiah 45:9 “Does a clay pot argue with its maker? Does the clay dispute with the one who shapes it, saying, ‘Stop, you’re doing it wrong!’”

God’s been busy shaping me and my conscience over the last five years as I have yielded to accepting the TRUTH of who God says I am and what I was created for—to love God and to love others. As long as I stay in that battle with my conscience I’m too preoccupied to do either of those things. Precisely the way the enemy of God wants it…

I have to choose to take an action that is completely the opposite of what I’m feeling and go love on somebody. And guess what happens with that battle with my conscience?

God wins!!


Sorry for shouting at you, but I feel pretty strongly about this. Here’s why:

I spent years talking truth back at my conscience (even shouting at times). I prayed, read my Bible, read books on the topic, and I asked for wisdom from my friends. Now I’m here to tell you that ALL of those things were beneficial. But they only led to a certain level of healing—an incomplete one. After years the battle was still waging in my mind and I was ready to wave the white flag and surrender. I figured the war would never end, no matter what I did.

“I’m not good enough. You shouldn’t have said that. You messed up…again.”

I shot those fiery darts at myself almost daily…even though I knew they were lies. Like an addiction or bad habit, I simply couldn’t break myself of it.

Until the “I could have had a V8” day. The day God put two scripture passages together in my head:

Jesus replied: “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’”  Matthew 22:37-39

Faith by itself, if it is not accompanied by action, is dead…You see that his faith and his actions were working together, and his faith was made complete by what he did. James 2:17, 22

My paraphrase: Love with all my mind. Love my neighbor as myself. My faith is made complete through acting in love.

Yeah right, I thought. At the time my mind was so preoccupied with me, there was no way I could love God or others. And then I saw how this had played out in my life:

Withdrawl. Hiding from people. Avoiding situations where I might feel unworthy. Trying to find a “safe” space where my conscience would not be tested.

My hyperactive conscience had the power in my life, not God. I realized the only way out was to take action. To fight the enemy on God’s terms, not man’s. I started to unfurl from my fetal position and make a choice to take a loving action. So when I started to berate myself I would purposefully go and encourage someone else instead. To be who God created me to be!

I discovered that I knew all the truth I needed to know, but I was waiting for the actions to just follow naturally. Nope, God said, YOU make the choice to act in truth and that’s when your faith is made complete. Your healing is made complete.

I think Joyce Meyer is famous for saying “Take the right action and the feelings will follow.” I’m here to tell you it works.

No, I’m not perfect at always taking the right action. But I haven’t been curled up in a ball for years. A little stomach ache now and I know what I need to do.

Do you have a hyperactive conscience? Put my method to the test and see if you can make it shut up too.

After all, what good does it do me, or you, or God if we’re wasting all our time talking to a liar?

By the way…you are beautiful,  you are worthy, you are used mightily by God and He has great plans for your life!

Go forth and conquer!



Comments on: "Do you have a hyperactive conscience?" (5)

  1. Um, WOW! This blog post is something I deal with all the time! I am so happy to have found it and I can start working right away. I pray this works for me (my stomach is always in an uproar and I have often wondered what it is doing to my insides). Thank you!!!

    • Thanks for sharing Tina! I am praying for you to be set free! Remember, you are beautiful and wonderfully made–and that’s the truth! 🙂

    • Thanks for sharing Tina! I’m praying for you to be set free to love as God loves and to be who God created you to be! Remember–you are beautiful and wonderfully made and created to love and be loved! 🙂

  2. I have had an overactiv conscience for some 20+ years. Only within the last month have I come to the same conclusion as Linda. We were having two loads of wood delivered and at the first drop I told the man that we heat the whole house with wood. He left and I realized that we don’t heat the upstairs. I was weeding the garden and all my thoughts were about how I had lied and how was I going to “confess” to this man that I told an untruth. I felt haunted and foolish for certainly this man couldn’t care less. I confessed to God that I had made a mistake, but that wasn’t enough to ease my mind. Then God told me two things: I didn’t believe He forgives and that I was wasting my time and my mind. I could have been using that time to pray for the wood man and how I could share the love of Jesus with him. It was a moment of freedom when I realized that Satan had used this oppressive guilt over trivia to distract me from loving God and loving man. I prayed for wisdom on how to reach this man and was amazed how God answered. This was an incredible revelation and I praise God for the freedom this brings. I still believe in being completely honest but there is a difference between lying and a mistake in a word. Thank you for sharing your experience, it has added frosting to my cake.

  3. The thing I’ve been struggling with is guilt because of not meeting the standards of my parents when it comes to spending time with them, and I’m a grown, married (for decades) woman with a family of my own. No one in my family will even speak to me. I have been surprised at how much control this has of my mind. I know well the stomach churning you spoke of, and I think Migraines may be a consequence of an overactive conscience. I believe this problem with my family relates to the hyperactive conscience you spoke of, because I am surprised how much I think back and rehearse everything I’ve done “wrong” over the years. I am going to try your method you’ve written about here. I hope it will relieve this.

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